- October 15: The Official Site of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. http://www.october15th.com/
- Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep: Offers free photography services to parents going through a loss. http://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/
- Names in the Sand: A photo memorial of your child’s name written on the sand and taken at sunset. http://www.namesinthesand.net/
- Names in the Stars: A photo memorial of your child’s name written in the stars. http://namesinthestars.blogspot.com/
- Abiding Hope Collage: Hope collages of your child’s name and handmade memory boxes. http://www.hopecollage.org/2009/11/hope-collage-requests.html
- Parade of butterflies: A memorial of your child’s name on a hand painted butterfly. http://butterflybaby15.blogspot.com/2009/06/ellas-parade-of-butterflies.html
- Waterfall Angels: A photo memorial of your child’s name on a rock near a waterfall. http://waterfallangels.blogspot.com/
- International Bablylost Fathers Day: A site that recognizes fathers who have lost a child with a special day. International Babylost Fathers Day
- International Babyloss Mothers Day: United in grief to find love and strength. A site that recognizes a special day for mothers who have lost a child. http://internationalbabylostmothersday.blogspot.com/
- Every Life has a Story: Helping grieving families keep their child’s memories alive through free memorial videos. http://everylifehasastory-home.blogspot.com/
- For Your Tears: A handmade handkerchiefs to catch your tears. http://wwwforyourtears.blogspot.com/
- Still Life 365: A year of art by mother, fathers and family members grieving babies. http://stilllife365.blogspot.com/
- Say it with Flowers: A photo memorial of your child’s name on a flower petal. http://onlysayitwithflowers.blogspot.com/
- The Shininglight Fund: A memorial bracelet with you child’s birthstone. http://www.shininglightfund.org/
- Share pregnancy and Infant Loss Support: Nondenominational organization that offers support to parents and others touched by the death of a baby through early pregnancy loss, stillbirth or newborn death. Over 130 chapters worldwide. http://www.nationalshare.org/
- HOPING~Helping Other Parents In Normal Grieving: HOPING is a parent-to-parent miscarriage, stillbirth and baby loss support group in Lansing, Michigan. The parents who attend our monthly meetings have lost a baby, and they understand what it’s like. http://lansingbabyloss.org/
- The MISS Foundation ~ Mothers in Sympathy and Support: Providing crisis support after the death of a child from any cause. http://www.missfoundation.org/
- MEND Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death: Support for families following the death of a child. http://home.mend.org/
- Journey Through Grief – learn about grief and processing it. http://www.journey-through-grief.com/
- Rowan Tree Foundation: Helping families heal after the loss of a child. http://www.rowantreefoundation.org/
- PILARI: “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness and Research Institute”. A place of information, support and healing for everyone affected by pregnancy and infant loss. http://www.pilari.org/
- Kate Cares: Kate Carmichael Stillbirth Program. http://www.katecares.org/family/web.html
- International Stillbirth Alliance: A non-profit coalition of organizations dedicated to understanding the causes and prevention of stillbirth. www.stillbirthalliance.org
- National Stillbirth Society: parent-led National Stillbirth Society is to “educate, agitate and legislate” for greater stillbirth awareness, research and reform. www.stillnomore.org
- First Candle: Provides support for parents who have lost a baby to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), stillbirth or other causes. Services in English and Spanish. http://www.firstcandle.org/grieving-families/
- HAND Helping After Neonatal Death: Supports parents, their families, and their health care providers to cope with the loss of a baby before, during or shortly after birth. http://www.handonline.org/
- The Compassionate Friends: National nondenominational self-help organization offering support and friendship to families following the death of a child. Over 500 chapters nationwide. http://www.compassionatefriends.org/
- String of Pearls: Provides a nurturing and safe place for families that have a fatal prenatal diagnosis. http://www.stringofpearlsonline.org
- Dealing with the loss of a child. A man’s perspective: An article on babyloss grief from the father’s perspective. http://www.mamamia.com.au
- Grieve Out Loud: Support for families following the death of a child. Resource page and pen-pal programs. http://grieveoutloud.org
- Baby Steps: A not for profit organization dedicated to raising funds for research into childhood illnesses and their treatments. http://www.babysteps.com/rrmainframe.html
- Feelings of the Fathers: http://www.thelaboroflove.com/forum/loss/fathers.html
- Support for grieving fathers: Web healing, Childloss chat page. http://webhealing.com/forums/index.php/board,2.0.html
- Meet You at the Sunset: A discussion spot for bereaved families. http://meetyouatthesunset.blogspot.com/
- Beyond Indigo: Loss forums. http://beyondindigo.com/forums/
- Silent Grief: Loss forums. http://silentgrief.proboards.com/index.cgi
- Labelle Dame Jewelry: Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss Memorial Jewelry. http://www.labelledame.com/
- My Forever Child: Keepsake and memorial jewelery for remembrance, healing and hope. http://myforeverchild.com/
- Sue-Ella Signatures: Keepsake and memorial jewelery for bereaved parents. http://sueellasignatures.com.au/
- Noah’s blanket: Handmade blankets an hats for parents to wrap their babies in. http://noahsblanketblessings.blogspot.com/2009/08/getting-this-thing-going.html
- Grief Watch: Offers support to persons who are grieving. http://www.griefwatch.com/
- Remembering our babies: Memorial keepsake boutique. http://www.rememberingourbabies.net/store/Default.asp
There are many books out there that may help you travel through your loss. Below are some that are popular in the loss community.
- Books for healing:
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby - By Deborah L. Davis: Empty Cradle, Broken Heart offers reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt, and despair after such tragedy. Deborah Davis encourages grieving and makes suggestions for coping. This book strives to cover many different kinds of loss, including information on issues such as the death of one or more babies from a multiple birth, pregnancy interruption, and the questioning of aggressive medical intervention. There is also a special chapter for fathers as well as a chapter on “protective parenting” to help anxious parents enjoy their precious living children.
A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies – By Tim Nelson: For for men who experience the death of their infant child — whether it be miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death. Meant to be a guide during the early hours and days after finding out the news of their baby’s death, the book offers suggestions for communicating with medical caregivers, offering support to their partner, telling the news to other children, making funeral arrangements and taking care of themselves in a time of crisis. It goes on to talk about effective communications during the weeks and months following the loss, going to a support group, returning to the workplace, and the issues surrounding a subsequent pregnancy.
Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy – By Pam Vredevelt: They are the most dreaded words an expectant mother can hear. As joy and anticipation dissolve into confusion and grief, painful questions refuse to go away: Why me? What did I do wrong? Doesn’t God care? With the warmth and compassion of a licensed counselor and a Christian woman who has suffered miscarriage herself, Pam Vredevelt offers sound answers, advice, and reassurance to the woman fighting to maintain faith in this heartbreaking situation.
- Books written by fathers:
When A Man Faces Grief – By James E. Miller: Two books in one. One half is for men who are grieving, with 12 helpful suggestions, each a chapter by itself. The other half is for those who want to understand and help men who are grieving, also in twelve short, helpful chapters.
Tender Fingerprints – By Brad Stetsen: Brad and Nina Stetson’s journey through and beyond the death of their infant son B.J. after 8 months of pregnancy, is candid and moving, capturing the Stetsons’ experience before B.J.’s birth, his baptism, burial, and the bereavement processes that allowed them to move beyond the sorrow.
Tuesday Mornings With The Dads – By The Dads Group: Created by a group of fathers who have come together to find their way thru the loss of their children. Each story unique and personal with a common thread of the loss of a loved one and their courageous journey thru grief.
- Books Written By Mothers
Still – By Stephanie Cole: Stephanie Cole found that out first hand when her unborn daughter died unexpectedly one week after her due date. Stephanie stumbled through the death of her daughter, using creative expression as a tool to navigate her way though the darkness. This book is a collection of the writings and artwork that she created in response to her loss.
Grieving the Child I Never Knew - By Kathe Wunnenberg: Having experienced three miscarriages and the death of an infant son, Kathe Wunnenberg knows the deep anguish of losing a child. Grieving the Child I Never Knew was born from her personal journey through sorrow. It is a wise and tender companion for mothers whose hearts have been broken–mothers like you whose dreams have been shattered and who wonder how to go on.
TLC “You Are Not Alone” – Stories compiled by bereaved families: A compilation of over 40 shared stories from Australian families who have experienced the loss of their babies.
Pregnancy Loss: Surviving Miscarriage and Stillbirth – By Zoe Taylor: Mother of two and journalist Zoe Taylor has survived repeated pregnancy losses. In this book, she shines a light on every aspect of this topic.
- Books For Children
Waterbugs and Dragonflies – By Doris Stickney and Robyn Henderson Nordstrom: Looking for a meaningful way to explain the death of a five-year-old friend to neighborhood children, Stickney adapted a graceful fable about a water bug that changed into a dragonfly.
The Dragonfly Door – By John Adams and Barbara Leonard Gibson: Help children identify the beauty and hope in all cycles of life as they follow two insects, Lea and Nym, and the struggles Nym endures when her friend disappears. This is a tender story about loss and change, written to help parents express their views about life and death.
Something Happened – By Cathy Blanford: This beautifully illustrated, simple, clear story is designed to help a young child understand what has happened when there has been a pregnancy loss. The book addresses the sadness that a child experiences when the anticipated baby has died.
We Were Gonna Have A Baby But We Had An Angel Instead – By Pat Schwiebert: This is a book to help children confront and manage grief over the loss of a young sibling. It can help you let your children know that the baby that was lost can still be remembered in a special way.